9 Irresistible Reasons to Go Complaint-Free Starting Now
by Christine Kane
In my upcoming Uplevel Your Life Mastery Program, there's a contract.
It's a commitment that each participant will go complaint-free, criticism-free, whine-free, and gossip-free for the full seven weeks of the course. That's 49 days, baby!
What does that have to do with Upleveling your Life?
Everything!
First off, let's get one thing out of the way: It's not about "being nice." This is much deeper.
It's about understanding the power of your Attention.
If you have a big juicy Intention or Dream - then your attention is the daily practice of manifesting that goal or dream. It is the essence of Creativity.
So, if I'm working with you, I want you to experience the power of shifting your attention from the so-called problem, so it can attract the many solutions!
Here are 9 Irresistible Reasons to Go Complaint-Free Today:
1 - When you're complaint-free, you find solutions rather than staying mucked in the problem.
If you don't offer yourself the option of complaining, then you train your brain to actually find solutions and get ideas. As Maya Angelou says, "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain."
2 - When you're complaint-free, you shrink your ego.
Complaining is like weight-training for your ego.
It makes your ego stronger because it makes someone or something else wrong. And it makes you right. Your ego becomes inflated and puffed up. When you cease the complaining/criticizing/gossiping habit, you tell your ego that your spirit is in charge, not your ego!
3 - When you're complaint free for 21-Days, you've started a new habit and created a new you.
Experts tell us it takes 21-days to form a new habit. And while it does take some trial and error to get through those 21-days, most of my clients notice that after only 7-days, they tolerate negativity less. After 2-weeks, they report that when they slip up, they can instantly self-correct!
4 - When you're complaint-free, it's a conversation starter.
Imaginary scenario:
Hal rushes into your office to gossip.
You get to simply smile and say, "Gosh Hal, you know, I'd love to join in, but I'm in the middle of Upleveling my Life. I signed a contract to go Complaint/Gossip-Free. Wanna look at it?"
Hal says, "Huh? What's that?"
Poof! The energy of the conversation shifts! It goes in a different direction and you get to experience that wildly exciting lightness where gossip would have once existed!
5 - When you're complaint-free, it's a conversation deepener.
Hal will listen for a while and then say, "Wow, that's a really great idea. I always notice how easy it is to complain, and I want to be more self-responsible..."
You'll share a deeper connection when you each admit that you want to live happier and more focused lives.
6 - When you're complaint-free, you attract new energy.
My clients have reported this one change so frequently, that I barely blink an eye anymore.
When you go complaint free, you simply start attracting more positive people to you. The negative people will walk away and think you're a complete idiot. But then, you'll start noticing positive curious people entering your life because you're so much fun to be around.
7 - When you're complaint-free, you banish lazy thinking.
Think about it.
You can't get much lazier than complaining and gossiping. It's the same well-worn neural pathway you've trudged down day after day, along with 95% of the population. When you're complaint-free, you go a different route. With alertness and alacrity, you find new ways of seeing things. (Plus, you get to use words like alacrity!)
8 - When you're complaint-free, you create happiness.
It's challenging at first, yes.
But after a few weeks, the common response I get from my clients is this: "You know what? I'm SO much happier!"
That's because complaining is just a habit, and it does nothing but drag us down. When your attention is forced to find new places to land, your subconscious becomes a "happiness-seeking missile." And because you're so powerful, you find it!
9 - When you're complaint free with a group, you get to soar on the updraft of the great group energy.
When groups work together, magic happens. It's why I created a Platinum Coaching and Mastermind group this year. It's why I invite my blog readers to join in on prayer lists each time I lead my women's retreats. When you link up with a group of like-minded people, effortlessness is created.
So - create a cool updraft with the many thousands of people who subscribe to this eZine. Go complaint-free!
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Performer, songwriter, and creativity consultant Christine Kane publishes her 'LiveCreative' weekly ezine with more than 4,000 subscribers. If you want to be the artist of your life and create authentic and lasting success, you can sign up for a FRE*E subscription to LiveCreative at www.christinekane.com.
WANT TO SEE HUNDREDS MORE ARTICLES LIKE THIS ONE?
See Christine's blog - Be Creative. Be Conscious. Be Courageous - at ChristineKane.com/blog.
In my upcoming Uplevel Your Life Mastery Program, there's a contract.
It's a commitment that each participant will go complaint-free, criticism-free, whine-free, and gossip-free for the full seven weeks of the course. That's 49 days, baby!
What does that have to do with Upleveling your Life?
Everything!
First off, let's get one thing out of the way: It's not about "being nice." This is much deeper.
It's about understanding the power of your Attention.
If you have a big juicy Intention or Dream - then your attention is the daily practice of manifesting that goal or dream. It is the essence of Creativity.
So, if I'm working with you, I want you to experience the power of shifting your attention from the so-called problem, so it can attract the many solutions!
Here are 9 Irresistible Reasons to Go Complaint-Free Today:
1 - When you're complaint-free, you find solutions rather than staying mucked in the problem.
If you don't offer yourself the option of complaining, then you train your brain to actually find solutions and get ideas. As Maya Angelou says, "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain."
2 - When you're complaint-free, you shrink your ego.
Complaining is like weight-training for your ego.
It makes your ego stronger because it makes someone or something else wrong. And it makes you right. Your ego becomes inflated and puffed up. When you cease the complaining/criticizing/gossiping habit, you tell your ego that your spirit is in charge, not your ego!
3 - When you're complaint free for 21-Days, you've started a new habit and created a new you.
Experts tell us it takes 21-days to form a new habit. And while it does take some trial and error to get through those 21-days, most of my clients notice that after only 7-days, they tolerate negativity less. After 2-weeks, they report that when they slip up, they can instantly self-correct!
4 - When you're complaint-free, it's a conversation starter.
Imaginary scenario:
Hal rushes into your office to gossip.
You get to simply smile and say, "Gosh Hal, you know, I'd love to join in, but I'm in the middle of Upleveling my Life. I signed a contract to go Complaint/Gossip-Free. Wanna look at it?"
Hal says, "Huh? What's that?"
Poof! The energy of the conversation shifts! It goes in a different direction and you get to experience that wildly exciting lightness where gossip would have once existed!
5 - When you're complaint-free, it's a conversation deepener.
Hal will listen for a while and then say, "Wow, that's a really great idea. I always notice how easy it is to complain, and I want to be more self-responsible..."
You'll share a deeper connection when you each admit that you want to live happier and more focused lives.
6 - When you're complaint-free, you attract new energy.
My clients have reported this one change so frequently, that I barely blink an eye anymore.
When you go complaint free, you simply start attracting more positive people to you. The negative people will walk away and think you're a complete idiot. But then, you'll start noticing positive curious people entering your life because you're so much fun to be around.
7 - When you're complaint-free, you banish lazy thinking.
Think about it.
You can't get much lazier than complaining and gossiping. It's the same well-worn neural pathway you've trudged down day after day, along with 95% of the population. When you're complaint-free, you go a different route. With alertness and alacrity, you find new ways of seeing things. (Plus, you get to use words like alacrity!)
8 - When you're complaint-free, you create happiness.
It's challenging at first, yes.
But after a few weeks, the common response I get from my clients is this: "You know what? I'm SO much happier!"
That's because complaining is just a habit, and it does nothing but drag us down. When your attention is forced to find new places to land, your subconscious becomes a "happiness-seeking missile." And because you're so powerful, you find it!
9 - When you're complaint free with a group, you get to soar on the updraft of the great group energy.
When groups work together, magic happens. It's why I created a Platinum Coaching and Mastermind group this year. It's why I invite my blog readers to join in on prayer lists each time I lead my women's retreats. When you link up with a group of like-minded people, effortlessness is created.
So - create a cool updraft with the many thousands of people who subscribe to this eZine. Go complaint-free!
==================
Performer, songwriter, and creativity consultant Christine Kane publishes her 'LiveCreative' weekly ezine with more than 4,000 subscribers. If you want to be the artist of your life and create authentic and lasting success, you can sign up for a FRE*E subscription to LiveCreative at www.christinekane.com.
WANT TO SEE HUNDREDS MORE ARTICLES LIKE THIS ONE?
See Christine's blog - Be Creative. Be Conscious. Be Courageous - at ChristineKane.com/blog.
Labels: Subversive Ideas, Think Tank
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by Fraser MacKenzie, Online Editor @ 3/11/2009 02:14:00 PM
11 March, 2009
New Gatewood Gallery Feature: Photography by Sha-Beth
Gatewood is pleased to announce a new addition to our online gallery. Southwest Virginia-based photographer Shana-Beth Doane has been shooting a variety of subjects recently, including snow-draped trees, urban sunsets, the highly photogenic family cats, and wild waterfalls. You can check out some of her work at www.gatewoodjournal.org/galleryshabeth01.html. Enjoy!
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by P.L. Miller, Contributing Editor @ 3/01/2009 01:23:00 PM
01 March, 2009
The Old Tavern
D. Thomas Matz
“I’m stuck in a rut,” I would say to anyone who would listen without returning some self-indulgent philosophical babble I had no need to hear. I can do this myself, I often thought. I can change my own life, after all, I haven’t had a drink in over a year. This was accomplished without anyone’s help. I quit drinking and that’s that.
My family tries their hardest to explain why I should be attending support groups or church. They say I need friends to help me through all of this. They say that failure hangs over me like a dark cloud. Without support, they insist, failure is inevitable. What kind of support is this? I wonder.
My old friends are no longer friends because of the simple fact that they don’t understand my need to be sober. Their idea of a good time is exactly what mine had been: getting drunk, causing trouble, and getting laid. I’m better than that. I have a future, and with some time to get my life straight, I will prove this to everyone.
Sure, maybe I need new friends, but these friends won’t be found at any AA meeting or church group. In my own time I will find my own friends. I simply need time to adjust. Time to reevaluate my life and surroundings. I mean, who wants to admit failure and weakness? Who wants to admit they need help? Well… maybe lots of people, but I’m not one of them. I’m strong and independent. Time and patience is all I need. Why can’t anyone understand this?
One day, I believe it was a Saturday – or was it Sunday? – it doesn’t matter. Whatever day it was, I was watching TV. It was early in the morning, so early the sun hadn’t yet risen. The TV was showing only infomercials and this one advertisement came on for some ridiculous exercise product that looked like a baton. It occurred to me, as I watched, how simple people are and how well this man on the TV explained that this product was absolutely necessary for a proper workout. The product, to me, seemed absolutely worthless. But the man who created it would get rich off of it anyway. His wealth would be made off the ignorance and low self-worth of well-meaning people. It didn’t occur to me at the time how much effort and time was invested in getting such a product on the market; I saw only how easy it was to make money. It seemed as though anyone could just change their life and be a success. So I did just that; I picked myself up and began to change my life.
It took only an hour to pack the car and eat a quick and simple breakfast. Then I was on the road. I drove down the two-lane highway headed west. I was searching for something new. New friends, new surroundings, a new beginning. Somewhere out there in the distance was the solitude I was needing to make my future into what I knew it could be.
Read the rest of this short story by D. Thomas Matz...
“I’m stuck in a rut,” I would say to anyone who would listen without returning some self-indulgent philosophical babble I had no need to hear. I can do this myself, I often thought. I can change my own life, after all, I haven’t had a drink in over a year. This was accomplished without anyone’s help. I quit drinking and that’s that.
My family tries their hardest to explain why I should be attending support groups or church. They say I need friends to help me through all of this. They say that failure hangs over me like a dark cloud. Without support, they insist, failure is inevitable. What kind of support is this? I wonder.
My old friends are no longer friends because of the simple fact that they don’t understand my need to be sober. Their idea of a good time is exactly what mine had been: getting drunk, causing trouble, and getting laid. I’m better than that. I have a future, and with some time to get my life straight, I will prove this to everyone.
Sure, maybe I need new friends, but these friends won’t be found at any AA meeting or church group. In my own time I will find my own friends. I simply need time to adjust. Time to reevaluate my life and surroundings. I mean, who wants to admit failure and weakness? Who wants to admit they need help? Well… maybe lots of people, but I’m not one of them. I’m strong and independent. Time and patience is all I need. Why can’t anyone understand this?
One day, I believe it was a Saturday – or was it Sunday? – it doesn’t matter. Whatever day it was, I was watching TV. It was early in the morning, so early the sun hadn’t yet risen. The TV was showing only infomercials and this one advertisement came on for some ridiculous exercise product that looked like a baton. It occurred to me, as I watched, how simple people are and how well this man on the TV explained that this product was absolutely necessary for a proper workout. The product, to me, seemed absolutely worthless. But the man who created it would get rich off of it anyway. His wealth would be made off the ignorance and low self-worth of well-meaning people. It didn’t occur to me at the time how much effort and time was invested in getting such a product on the market; I saw only how easy it was to make money. It seemed as though anyone could just change their life and be a success. So I did just that; I picked myself up and began to change my life.
It took only an hour to pack the car and eat a quick and simple breakfast. Then I was on the road. I drove down the two-lane highway headed west. I was searching for something new. New friends, new surroundings, a new beginning. Somewhere out there in the distance was the solitude I was needing to make my future into what I knew it could be.
Read the rest of this short story by D. Thomas Matz...
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by Rob Colfax, Senior Editor @ 2/19/2009 04:30:00 PM
